I don't know, the budget has gone completely bad after the wedding
So you must be giving money to Kashf after the wedding
Yes, but I don't give as much as I should. Why? Should I say no?
I told you not to say no. But don't say no so openly.
It's possible that she is passing on her family
No mother, Kashf is not such a girl
That she is taking money from me and giving it to her family.
Besides, who is there in her family? Is there any problem?
No, there is no problem
Then what is the problem? Why don't you take the money?
I will not take money from you
I heard about your mother in the morning and now I have heard about you
And this is the proof of my commitment to this relation, whether there are any rules or not
How can I respect her respect, mother?
She thinks that I take money from her son and give it to you
Mother, she thinks I am a thief
Good news. I just reached the office so I got to know that you have been transferred to Islamabad
You are joking. How can it be so soon? And I didn't even get any orders
Oh, the orders will also come by tomorrow
Congratulations, I have heard that you are married
Yes, thank you
I am still surprised
Why?
I didn't know that you would marry a girl like Kashf
What is your husband like?
This was not the answer to my question
Then you can think of it as the same answer
Hello!
Where are you?
I am going home
What happened?
What do you mean? Nothing
You look tired
Your voice is weird
It seems as if you are worried
No, I am not worried. I am alright
Fine
Call me when you reach home
Okay
Bye
What a strange thing. Now she has begun to judge my tone
Wives are also strange creatures in this world
I have been waiting for you for a long time
Sister has been wanting to come to your house for a long time
First of all, I was always busy with some household chores
And I didn't have the courage to do so
What is there to be courageous about?
This is your own house
Even I was saying the same thing to mother
Mother, I was saying the same thing to you
You know aunty makes very interesting kebabs
This is your greatness
How are Duba and Tanzeela?
They are fine. They are both uncle's
Absolutely?
Yes
Duba has done his BA
So he doesn't have to study further
I would like to study further but…
First of all, he is a little weak in studies and…
He doesn't like it
She just wants to get married to him as soon as possible like Sidra and Kashf
Yes, yes
Why not?
God will make a home for your daughters too
Hey sister, where are my daughters?
These are also your daughters
Just like Kashf and Sidra, they are my daughters
In fact, I have even told Hammad's father
Sister is the elder of this house and he will make all the decisions
He will do whatever he wants to do
Marriage, marriage, everything
They are your daughters
It is better for you people to make such big decisions in life
Sister, you are too educated
You are too sensible
Whatever decision you make, you will do it better
And then you know, we have always been convinced by closing our eyes on everything you say
You are right
Here you go
Kashf called today
She was telling me that she has posted this news
Yes, Darun called me
It is good
Look, if husband and wife are standing separately, problems would have arisen
You have to make sacrifices to make a career
By the way, Kashf is a good girl
Yes
She is of a good nature and calls me regularly
Yes, she is a responsible girl
It is good
I will call Darun
You are such an unfaithful man
You got married but you don't pick up the phone, you don't read the messages
Did anyone tell you to be a slave to your wife?
Now don't think of everyone as your own
What do you mean?
I and Farmer Bardaar can never be like that
You know I think it is a man's word
Anyway, stop being rude and tell me how is sister in law?
She is fine
She has gone off to UK to visit her parents
She will be back soon
Tell me, where is Kashf?
Kashf?
She is coming to Islamabad, I have got her posted
This is good
How is she?
She is the same
You mean, good?
Not good, very good
I don't give you such taunts of being a slave to your wife
Well, Kashf has the ability to make anyone a slave
Yes, I know that
Yes, and I also know that you were Kashf's only servant a long time ago
I am still Kashf
But now we don't talk about it
It seems like you have put a lot of restrictions on her
I will put restrictions on her, to talk to you
What nonsense are you talking about?
I don't know
I thought maybe there must be some issue
I mean, she had told you what happened, right?
Yes, she had told me
But I have no problem
I am that liberal
Thank God for that
Otherwise I was thinking, that the more narrow minded you are,
when you will come to know that I have proposed to her,
then you would actually stop her from talking to me
And you know what, that is why I didn't call you
Anyways, you listen to me
How is she going?
Is she coming back to sister in law?
She is coming back soon
There is a party then
Eat your food, it will get cold
It has been a year since Ufran's divorce, mummy
She doesn't have a child or anything
Sara, you have worried me
Why?
What is there to worry about?
Sara, I agree that Ufran's parents live in America
But they are very conservative
They must be, mummy
But I don't think that there will be any issue between Ufran and me
I know him since fifteen years
We were together in school and college
He is a good boy
When did I say that he is a bad boy?
But still you think that he is mismatched for me
Yes Sara, I think he is mismatched
Because I know your character very well
There is a difference between your and Ufran's character
I know
But I will try to change my character, mummy
You will try to change it?
Do you think that everything is so easy?
No mummy
It is not easy
But it is not impossible either
You have to make adjustments and compromises in marriage
At least this is what I have learned from my first experience
Compromises should be done by both parties
Otherwise it won't work
No Sara
Whatever happened with Farhan, it was all Farhan's fault, not yours
No mummy
It was my fault too
What mistake are you talking about?
I am not talking about any one mistake
I have made a lot of mistakes
I think I have taken the marriage like relationship very lightly
And I have taken my husband more casually
I have given myself more importance
And I have kept my likes and dislikes ahead of everyone
I haven't thought about it at all
But
Not everyone is a dad, mummy
What do you mean?
What are you trying to say?
Your dad and I are very happy
In fact, we have a perfect ideal relationship
No mummy
This is your misunderstanding
So this is our house
It is clean
It is beautiful too
Did you buy all these paintings from here?
No
I bought them from a lot of Karachi too
What happened?
Is everything fine at the office?
Yes
Then why are you so quiet?
I am not quiet
I think so
What is the matter?
You are looking wrong
Will you have some peanuts?
No thanks
You used to eat it with a lot of passion
You made me go crazy by feeding me
It was different before
I have done it in a lot of foolishness before
Yes, that is true
By the way, I was thinking of writing a book on your foolishness
I will write a couple of books in my old age
You are a very interesting topic
You are also a very interesting topic
Then you also write a book on me
I have not asked you to
Why should I?
Many people can write a book on you
Many people? Who?
You know this better
No, I don't know. You tell me
Anyways
I am very tired
I have a lot of work at the office. I am going to rest
You are not going to Aliya's dinner today?
No
Why? Is everything okay?
I don't feel like going
Hmm
Junaid, tell me something
Go and ask
Are you happy with me?
What kind of question is this?
Whatever the question is, you answer it
Why are you sitting here and asking me such a question?
Today Sara has told me
That you are not happy with me
Oh
I felt very bad about it
But
Why did Sara say this to you?
You leave this
Answer what I am asking
What do you think?
I think that if there was anything like this, you would have said it to me
It has been so many years since we got married
I think that we have an ideal life
We don't have any fight. We have such a good understanding
I don't think that you are not happy with me
I don't think that any relationship is an ideal relationship
This means that Sara was right
You are not happy with me
This is not about happiness or anger
But we have spent such a good life
But I have made the most compromises in spending this good life
You have done very little work in making this relationship good
What are you trying to say?
That I don't have any contribution in this marriage?
You do have
But you don't have as much as you should have
I don't believe it
You have never said anything like this
No
I have told you many times
But you didn't pay attention
And today, even if you are asking, it is because of Sara
Junaid, my house has always been my first priority
No
No Huzoor
Your house, your children, your family
Your family
Your first priority has never been your priority
Your first priority has always been your career
Which has badly affected all of us
There are a lot of chances in life
I felt the lack of a wife while you were around
In the upbringing of Laroon and Sara
I felt the lack of a wife while you were around
I tried to make you understand again and again but
But you didn't realize it
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Hi Irfaq
I'm just reaching the office for a while
Okay
Okay bye
You're ready as well
Sit down, I'll get the breakfast ready
No, I'm not a servant
Okay, I'll come late at night and I'll be back
Okay
Okay bye
You're ready as well
Sit down, I'll get the breakfast ready
No, I'm not a servant
Okay
Okay, I'll come late at night and
Okay, I know you're joining on Monday
But if you want to go to the office, I'll send you the driver
No, I'll go on Monday
I have two days left
Okay
Amjad
Greetings
You're here
You change, I'll serve the food
I made your favorite food today
I'll change and come
I made your favorite food
You should have told me earlier
Why did you waste your time?
What's the point of wasting my time?
I made your favorite food
Are you very tired today?
Yes
That's why you're so quiet
I told you earlier that I'm not that much
You should have told me earlier that I'm not that quiet
Maybe it's because you called me
Is everything fine with Zaroor?
Yes, everything is fine
Will you have it?
I'll have it
Did you like the food?
Yes, it's fine
Is everything fine?
If it's fine, I'll say it's fine
Thank you
Thanks
What's wrong with you Zaroor?
What's the matter?
What's the matter when nothing has happened?
Something must have happened
I came to your house for the first time
You were happy and excited before I came
You didn't even say a word when I came
Is this normal?
Everything is normal
It's just that I'm your sister
Then why are you upset?
Kashif, why would I be upset in front of you?
And if I'm upset, then why do you care?
Then why do I care?
I'm asking you if you care
If I didn't care, I wouldn't have said anything
Usama met me
So?
So why didn't you tell me earlier that Usama proposed to you before me?
So that's why you're upset
If you're upset because of this, then I'm very upset Zaroor
There's nothing in this that can make you upset
Kashif, this is nothing in front of you
Tell me Zaroor
How can this be important for you?
You should have told me
So you want me to tell you about my every proposal?
And then I should ask you to tell me about your proposals?
Who does this after marriage?
Kashif
I'm not talking about other people, I'm talking about Usama
Zaroor, Usama was just a proposal for me and nothing else
Then you could have told me
If there was anything to keep a secret in this, then Usama wouldn't have told you
Or I would have told him not to tell you
If we had a purpose to hide something, then we would have hidden it, it wasn't a difficult task
Still
Fine
But I won't give you an excuse for this
Zaroor, Usama proposed me and I rejected him
If I had any interest in him, then I would have married him
If you want to make this an issue, then I can't do anything
So
So this is a new problem that I have to face
Sitting here, he has doubts on me
And now I have to give him excuses
which is the most difficult task of the world for a girl like me.
Whatever I try to do to strengthen this relationship,
something or the other happens to her that I come there and stand up again.
Hamza?
Greetings sir.
Greetings.
Sir, have breakfast.
Hmm, where is Kashf?
She has gone to the office.
On Sunday?
Yes.
Did you tell her to come back?
No.
Okay listen, iron my clothes.
Okay.
Hello?
Yes, Zaroor you were sleeping in the morning so I left without telling you.
Actually I got a call from the office early in the morning.
They had arranged a surprise tea party for me.
Kashf, if you can go without telling me on the day of the holiday then don't expect me to hide anything from you.
But I had to go Zaroor and you were sleeping in the morning.
I don't care Kashf.
Everyone has work and I have a lot of work as well.
And if I was at home then you would have to go to my office early in the morning.
I don't care.
And if I was at home then you should have been more concerned about me than about a welcome party.
But actually you wanted to get rid of me so you made an excuse and ran away.
Are you getting rid of me or me?
How can you even think like that?
I can think like that because I am not a fool.
Then think whatever you want to think.
Hello, greetings.
Greetings sir.
How are you?
I am fine.
How are you Kashf?
I am fine.
I just got a missed call from you so I am replying to that.
Yes Kashf, I called you because a group of students wants to visit the interior sin.
If you could please coordinate it.
Yes, I will definitely get it done.
You just tell me the areas and dates and I will get it done.
Not a problem.
Thank you.
Please sir, don't embarrass me now.
And how is Zaroor?
He has disappeared since he got married.
Just don't ask about him now.
He is nothing but a headache to me these days.
Why? What happened?
Usama called me once so I talked to him and when he didn't tell Zaroor then he…
You know how Zaroor's temperament is so because of him something…
…should happen.
Hello there.
Greetings sir.
Greetings to you.
How are you?
I am fine.
How are you?
I am fine.
I just got a little busy a few days ago.
I have many things to do.
I couldn't call you.
Twelve days ago I placed the text.
I didn't complain to you at all.
Yes, I know you did not complain but I thought about telling you.
And can I hear from you?
How is Auntie?
How is Aunty?
She is also stylish, beautiful and doesn't care about us.
Yes, your pain and dad's pain are the same.
Zaroor, what is happening between you and Kashf these days?
Between me and Kashf?
Is everything fine? Why?
Not so much. I talked to Kashf.
And what did she say to you?
I didn't think you were such a fool, Zaroor.
You have become like a child.
Grow up boy, I couldn't expect such a foolish thought and words from you.
How can you fall into such nonsense doubts and jealousies?
Did you call sir for dinner?
I called him but madam, he refused.
Okay.
Hmm.
Ghoofran is a good boy.
It's a different thing that I haven't met him since many years but my opinion about him has always been good.
If he is interested in marrying you then I think you should go for it.
Zaroor, do you really think that we will be able to live a good life together?
Yes, why?
Do you have any doubt?
Mummy has confused me so much.
Did you talk to dad?
No, not yet.
Dad doesn't know Ghoofran very well.
If I talk to him then he will either talk to mummy or ask you.
That's why I thought that I should talk to you first.
Hmm.
But what is your mother's objection?
What is her objection?
She thinks that Ghoofran is very conservative, her family values are very typical etc.
Yes, she is.
She is very conservative.
Why do you people think that I can't adjust in a conservative set up?
You can.
Obviously Zaroor, if I wasn't ready to compromise in any way then why would I think of getting married again?
And that too with Ghoofran.
Look Sara, the decision to get married for the second time should be taken more carefully than the first time.
I know.
That's why I am talking to all of you instead of making a decision on my own.
That's a good thing to do.
It is also very difficult.
Okay fine, you talk to dad, I will talk to mummy.
Thanks.
How is Kashf?
Kashf?
She will be fine.
She will be fine?
What does that mean?
Nothing.
Zaroor, did you have a fight with her?
No.
I thought that maybe…
I thought everything was wrong.
Zaroor, please don't repeat my mistakes with her.
Please.
Okay fine, we will talk later, I will leave now.
I will leave now, okay?
Thank God son, that you have been blessed with a childlike blessing.
Childlike or like a son?
What difference does it make whether it is a son or a daughter?
A child should be pious, obedient and healthy.
My only wish is that you become a mother as soon as possible.
I should first take care of that child who brought me along with the marriage.
Okay mom, I will definitely come to meet Zaroor this week.
You tell me what I should buy for him.
Okay son, live long and always be happy.
Good bye.
Oh God!
What have I done?
If Ghoofran's parents want to come, then call them.
Your dad and I will meet them.
Dad has already told me.
I sometimes think that parents make a mistake in making children independent.
Why did you think of this?
I thought of this because children make their own decisions.
But when something goes wrong, parents blame them.
Then it would be better if parents make all the big decisions.
Mom, I have never made you responsible for any of my decisions.
But I do think that maybe you have missed some values in our upbringing.
Sara, when you talk about Isra, you hurt me a lot.
You really hurt me.
I don't want to hurt you mom. I am sharing my pain with you.
The way I thought it was better, I brought you up.
But I never told you to ignore your husband or your home.
Whatever happened Sara, it was your fault too.
Now don't repeat those mistakes.
You are right.
It's been so many days.
She didn't even try to make me.
As if I don't care for her.
Although if she would have tried to make me, I would have agreed.
She is very stubborn.
She is stubborn.
It's not about being stubborn, it's about principles.
Zaroor will have to keep the same standard for himself and me in some matters.
I did not get married because I wanted to include a person in my life who would judge my every action as God.
For me, this is the reason for the insult that he is doubting me on a stupid thing.
And more than an insult, this is a pain for me.
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