If it wasn't for Janina's wish, they would have brought the proposal to our house.
Then it's fine mother, if you like everything, then you can fix her proposal there, don't make her wait for me.
Usama, I don't want to get married, neither to you nor to anyone else.
What is this?
I'm telling the truth.
Then I'll tell you that I can wait, maybe later your intentions will change.
I can't change my intentions.
You know if I ever get married again, and I have children,
then I will never raise them the way you and I have.
I will not make my daughter a confused personality like me.
There is a big difference between class difference and Usama doesn't know anything about me.
I can never bring her in front of her in my house.
Which girl are you trying to be interested in?
The one in class.
Name?
Kashf.
Kashf?
Do you think I'm choosing her because I have expectations from Kashf for her blind words?
Then why are you choosing her?
Because of her character.
Character?
I like Kashf's strength of character.
I really want to marry her.
Look dear, if Kashf would have mentioned about this proposal to me, then I would have thought.
Mom, it was such a good proposal.
I don't know what stupidity Kashf did.
My wish is that Kashf gets married so that I can think about Shahneela.
They insist again and again.
But Kashf was saying that she has asked you to agree for Shahneela.
And you think that I will agree to it.
She is my elder daughter.
And anyway, when it was about you, then it was a different thing.
This situation is completely different.
I'm thinking to contact Usama myself.
I don't know if it's possible.
That's why my dear insisted that you come to Pakistan immediately so that you can talk to Kashf.
She doesn't listen to me.
Whatever I say, she doesn't listen.
I will talk to her.
But mom, don't let such a good proposal go to waste.
You can agree for Shahneela if you don't want to get engaged.
They are such good people.
They are Shahzaib's family friends.
She also talks to them.
And they want so much that we get married.
Fine.
I'll see.
Zaroor, have you decided that you have to bring a problem every fourth day and create a problem for us?
What problem, mom?
I don't understand what the problem is.
The girl I like, I'm asking you to take her proposal.
What's the big problem in this?
And you yourself said that you want to get married as per your wish.
I won't choose a girl.
Getting married doesn't mean that I don't see a family or a family.
A school teacher's daughter?
Why can't you get married to a school teacher's daughter?
And you?
Don't make me understand.
Don't say anything.
Just sit and watch the drama.
What does mother do?
Dad, I don't know. I only know about mother.
You should have at least got to know about her before you decided to get married.
Or have you made a blind decision?
Dad, this is the first decision of my life that I've made after thinking about it.
I can see that.
I'm not status conscious if that's what you're saying.
I have to get married.
She has to be a part of my family.
I don't want to be a part of her family.
And I don't care how her family is.
I want to get married to a girl.
You don't care but I do.
What will I tell people?
What will I tell them?
What is her family background?
What will you say?
Tell them that she's a very capable girl.
She's in the DMG group.
Her family is decent.
There is no money there.
That is not family background.
Zahroon, you don't understand one thing.
When there is such a big difference between class and financial status,
then relationships don't work out.
Anyway, it's too late.
Now you have to take my proposal to their house.
I will not go there at all.
Don't even think about it.
Absolutely no way.
Dad, please.
Look, first I'll talk to Mr. Ibrahim.
Then to your mother.
You bring one problem after another.
Your mother is right.
My child is in no condition.
Yes.
Greetings sir.
Greetings Kashif.
Come, I was waiting for you.
Is everything fine?
You called me in such a way that I was worried.
Everything is fine.
There is nothing to worry about.
I just wanted to talk to you.
Sit down.
Will you have coffee?
Yes, fine.
Ashraf, two good coffees.
It's a very good book.
Take it and read it.
Yes, I will.
You recommended it, so it will definitely be good.
How is your job going?
Absolutely fine, sir.
Yes, you told me that your sister has come from America.
Have you ever brought her?
Yes, she is getting engaged to her younger sister, so she is busy with this matter these days.
I thought that I would bring her along with me on any weekend.
She is also very interested in meeting you.
Yes, sure.
Bring her on any weekend and have dinner with us.
Yes.
Where did your younger sister's engagement go?
She is from a family from Karachi.
They are very nice people, that's why she is getting them married.
When her education is over, then we will get married.
Very good.
And what have you thought about your marriage?
Nothing, sir.
Why?
I am not interested in marriage, sir.
Why?
Your parents must be thinking about it.
Yes, they do think about it but I told you that I am not interested in marriage.
I want to focus on my work.
But I was looking for a groom for you for the wedding.
In fact, I have found one for you as well.
Who are you talking about, sir?
Zaroon Junaid.
Excuse me, whose name did you take?
I took the name of the one who surprised you.
Zaroon Junaid?
Yes.
You are joking.
No way.
How can you think that I can joke with you about this?
I am really talking about your marriage with Zaroon Junaid.
How can you even suggest this to me?
I know that you don't like Zaroon Junaid.
Your opinion about him is very bad.
But I know that he is your family friend.
He is very dear to you.
But your opinion about him is different from mine.
He is very dear to me.
There is no doubt about it.
My opinion about him is not good just because of this.
You think Zaroon is a very bad person but he is not that bad.
He is a very good person.
If you are saying so then he must be good.
But I am not interested in him at all.
Why?
There is nothing common between me and Zaroon.
Our thoughts are different.
Our values are different.
Our way of living is different.
So there is no question of marriage.
And I think that you have talked to Zaroon without me.
Otherwise he would have refused it himself.
I am saying this because of him.
He has asked you to talk to me.
I will not marry him.
He will be the last man in the world.
I will not marry him even then.
And instead of marrying a man like him,
I think it is better to live alone for the rest of my life.
Look, your reaction is not unexpected for me.
But you are thinking emotionally right now.
Think calmly.
Go home and consult your family.
Then answer them calmly.
And yes,
before you say no, you have to tell me a very strong reason.
I will tell you this right now, sir.
His character is not good.
He is a very ill-mannered and arrogant man.
Who doesn't know how to respect a woman at all.
I will not say that his character is bad.
But I do believe that he has done a lot of mischief in his life.
And because of these mischiefs, we cannot label him.
Alright.
He must have made a lot of friends in college and university.
But he has not done anything that I can doubt his character.
You can never think about Zaroor unbiasedly.
Because you love him.
He says the same thing about you as well.
I don't understand.
That despite knowing all this, we both dislike each other so much.
How can you still call us both for marriage?
Look,
you dislike him.
But he doesn't dislike you.
If he would have disliked you, then why would he ask me to marry you?
He has a habit of proposing girls.
He must have proposed all the girls of the university.
Only I was left.
The one he did not propose.
So he is doing this now.
Anyways,
no one goes to propose a girl like this without thinking about it.
And let me tell you one thing, Zaroor is not as shallow and stupid as you think he is.
Sir,
he is whatever he is.
I don't like him.
And I will not waste my time thinking about his proposal.
People are very nice.
The boy is also very nice.
Shahzaib knows the boy.
In fact, the in-laws of Sidra also know those people.
Yes, all the things are fine but,
I don't understand Shahneela's marriage leaving Kashf.
But he is not in a hurry to get married.
He wants it to be decided after.
And I also want it to be decided.
He was saying that he will first get his daughter married.
It will take about a year and then he will think about getting his son married.
Fine but we have to think about Kashf's marriage first.
If we have to think about Kashf's marriage, then how can we think about Shahneela's marriage?
You talk to him about Kashf's marriage.
But he has talked about Shahneela's marriage.
If he would have talked about Kashf's marriage then I would have definitely talked about it.
Fine, if he has talked about Shahneela's marriage then ask him to wait for some time.
Find a proposal for Kashf.
Now people ask me about her marriage.
Where is Sidra?
She went to the market with her friend. She will be here any moment.
She might have come.
Come my child.
Mother, look what I have brought.
Come my child.
Greetings father.
Greetings my child.
Sidra, I was talking about you.
How are you my child?
I am fine.
How are you?
I am absolutely fine.
I came to invite you.
Would you like to have dinner with me?
Father, there is no need for that.
Why my child?
Come on, look at my house on this pretext and she was insisting a lot.
Father, there is no need to eat just to meet and choose in life.
There are many other things in life.
And also, I will just keep this inside.
Fine, I will leave now.
Yes.
Good bye.
What was the need to talk like this Sidra?
You have given a clear answer.
What clear answer mother?
Isn't it better than a lie?
Yes, but still my child.
You were inviting me to dinner.
You should have gone to have dinner.
What would have happened?
Mother, do you really think that we should go to their house to have dinner?
At the time of my marriage, I didn't even get so much from father that he would have sent me away from this house in the shade of his prayers.
Helping in marriage is a far thing.
And now, when he saw that we are all settled in our life, he remembered to feed him.
There are many other things in life.
All the problems can't be solved by just inviting him.
I am not going to marry you.
I will marry you.
Oh God!
I think that the culprit has talked to her.
She must have refused.
But why is she calling me now?
I will die.
How dare he?
That he would have talked to Sarabrar about my proposal.
He would have told him everything that he has said.
He likes it.
My foot!
First Osama and now Zarun Junaid.
Did they plan to fool me together?
Or is there any other purpose of this scheme?
Whatever it is, I will fix Zarun's mind.
Thank you.
Danila, bring water and a glass of water.
And now come here.
Greetings.
Greetings. Come dear.
Come and have dinner.
No, I am hungry.
What happened to her?
Maybe there is some official problem.
I will go and check.
Is everything fine?
No.
Why? What happened?
Nothing has happened yet but it will happen.
What are you doing? Tell me what happened?
I don't understand.
When everything is going fine in my life, then why does it start?
What kind of a problem has happened?
When will I breathe in peace?
For God's sake Kashf, tell me clearly what happened?
If I find that fool somewhere,
I will teach him such a lesson
that he will remember it all his life.
Who are you talking about?
Zarun Junaid.
Who else?
Hey, Zarun.
Yes, hello Usama. How are you?
I was just thinking about you.
Why?
I was just thinking about you.
Why?
Is there any reason
to think about you?
I was just thinking about you.
By the way,
you tell me. What were you thinking?
No, no. I thought that
someone must have mentioned me to you.
Who mentioned you?
No one.
I just said it.
You tell me. How are you?
I just came home a little while ago.
I am leaving for dinner in a while.
I just came home a little while ago.
You tell me. You look worried.
Hmm?
Me?
No, I am not worried.
Why? Do I look worried by my voice?
Yes, you look worried.
Otherwise,
did I have to get an alarm?
By the way, are you really worried?
No, I am not
but if I look so much
then I should be worried.
What do you mean?
Nothing.
Come on.
It happens. Okay?
Bye.
Zaroor
Zaroor Junaid
Where did he come from?
I don't understand where he came from.
What did he do?
The same thing he has been doing since forever.
If that person wanted to destroy me
then I don't know what all he would have done.
What did he do this time?
He didn't leave me in front of Sir Abraar.
This time, whatever he did
I can never forgive him.
What did he say to Sir Abraar?
What did he propose to me?
I am fine. How are you?
I am fine too.
How is the weather in Karachi?
The weather in Karachi is the same
as it was last week when you were here.
You tell me
how is the weather in Islamabad?
Islamabad is fine.
The weather is good here.
Really?
I have heard that it is cold
and it rained yesterday too.
Yes.
It rained today.
It was very cold today.
The weather was bad today.
Sorry, I didn't pay attention.
You didn't pay attention?
What?
You were very busy today?
Zaroor and Junaid
proposed to you?
He proposed to you himself?
If he had proposed to me himself
I wouldn't have broken his head.
He did all this nonsense
with Sir Abraar.
I don't believe it.
I don't believe it too.
Look at his courage.
He didn't say anything to me.
He said something to Sir Abraar.
He wants to give him the impression
that he likes me.
He cares about me.
He said that he likes you?
Can you believe that?
I didn't talk to you for a long time
that's why I wanted to talk to you.
It hasn't been that long.
You were here last week.
It's been a week.
Seven days. Isn't that enough?
Zaroor I didn't know that
you count days to talk to your mother.
Yes?
But Zaroor was engaged
with that girl.
What was her name?
Asmara.
He must have left her.
I told you before.
She was his old friend.
Right now Asmara and her engagement is not the problem.
It's the problem of proposing to me.
I don't see any problem from the beginning.
What do you mean?
Zaroor
He's calling me now.
Hello?
Yes, Zaroor.
What's the problem with you?
How do you know that I have a problem?
When you call me in ten minutes
then there must be some problem.
There is a problem.
Zaroor
I want to talk to Kashf.
I can't.
Why not?
Zaroor
must have talked to her.
I'm sure.
I'm sure he must have refused
and she must have.
I was getting a call
but I didn't take it.
Why?
Why didn't you take the call?
What will she say?
I don't know.
You can be so scared of a girl.
I never thought about it.
Zaroor
What's there to be scared of?
Talk to her.
You're right.
I should talk to her.
Then talk to her.
Bye.
God
If Kashf marries
Zaroor
then you can imagine what the future will be.
She's not even talking to that girl.
So strange.
And he keeps criticizing me
and your dad.
I don't care
about him.
I see
a good husband in him.
Dad, be serious
please. We're not joking.
If Zaroor
has proposed to you
and that too through Sarabraar
then that means he's serious about you.
Serious my foot.
Do you think I'd think about
such a proposal?
You've lost your mind.
What's wrong with that?
It would have been better if I had accepted Usama's proposal.
I was telling you from the beginning
to accept his proposal.
Such a good offer.
You'll never understand me, Sidra.
You can't even do this yourself.
Hello?
Hello.
This is Kashf Murtaza speaking.
Yes, I'm her sister speaking.
Oh.
Greetings.
How are you?
I'm fine. How are you?
I'm fine.
Do you know me?
Yes.
I've heard a lot about you.
About me?
Oh.
Oh, from Kashf?
Yes. I've been hearing about you since my university days.
Then you must not have heard anything good about me.
By the way, my name is Sidra.
I live in America.
I'm married.
I've come here recently.
That's nice.
I'm very happy to talk to you.
I'm also happy to talk to you.
Kashf isn't in her room right now.
She comes so I'll ask her to call you.
Listen,
if you don't mind, I can talk to you for a while.
Talk to me?
Look, maybe ...
I don't know if I should talk to you or not.
But to approach Kashf's family,
I don't have any other way.
You can talk to me without any worries.
I'm listening to you.
I had told you earlier.
She said yes.
At our house.
My father lives in America.
He must have lost his mind.
But he listens to you.
He ran away to call you.
How would I know that she would say no?
I've fulfilled the duty of being a father.
I'm thinking that she should at least give me one meal.
If she doesn't want to come,
then it's her wish.
If she doesn't want to come,
then it's her wish.
She always does what she wants.
When does she stay away from you?
Rafia was telling me that
Shehneela is getting married.
Shehneela?
Yes.
The boy is an engineer.
He's from a family in Karachi.
They're very good people, educated people.
They eat and drink at home.
I don't understand
where did Rafia get such good proposals from?
Could it be
that she uses a blackmail?
For now I've said no.
Think about Kashif first.
Mr. Murtaza,
you should forget about Kashif's marriage.
Rafia doesn't marry Kashif.
She's getting married.
Hey, she's earning.
Let her get married.
Does she have to spend her old age on her own?
It's a dream of yours.
Go and bring more.
Roshia?
It's Saaroon's call.
Saaroon?
What do you think of yourself?
A very good person.
I've been calling you all day
and you didn't have the courage to answer my call.
And you wanted to marry me.
Okay, I'm sorry.
I was busy all day in the office.
But now I'm absolutely free.
Tell me.
How dare you talk about my proposal with Sir Abrahar?
It's not a crime to propose to anyone.
Keep your proposals with you.
You'll be the only one in the world for me, right?
No, I admit that there will be other people.
You'll never learn to respect a woman.
Why do you think that proposing to someone means that I don't respect her?
On the contrary, you're one of those few women who I respect with all my heart.
Keep your respect with you.
I don't need anything from you.
Okay, I understand that it's not appropriate to talk about this on the phone.
It would be better if we sit together and talk about this.
Now you tell me.
I'll come to Badin.
I'll come to your office and talk to you.
Otherwise, if you're coming to Karachi, tell me.
We'll meet.
Let's meet.
I don't even want to see your face.
And you don't even have the courage to come to my office.
Otherwise?
Otherwise, you'll see.
Look Kashf, if you think with a cool head for a while,
then maybe you won't find my proposal inappropriate.
Yes.
Because it's the job of girls in this world that you keep proposing to them
and they keep thinking about you.
What do you think of me, Zaroor?
I'm not one of Asmara, Naveen, Noreen, Maria, Farheen and those girls.
Wow, you remember all my girlfriends' lists.
But please just name her Farheen.
I used to like her a lot.
Even I used to like you.
No, you used to like me as a witch.
Oh, okay.
Thank you then.
If you want me not to look like a witch to you,
then don't call me again.
Did you get any benefit?
By talking to him like this?
Yes, I did.
At least he won't talk to me or Sir Abraad like this.
Even if he won't, then what will he do?
Do you want to lose every good proposal like this?
Good proposal?
Do you know this man's character?
No.
I know.
I spent two years with him at university.
His attitude, lifestyle, arrogance, snobbery, everything.
He didn't hide anything from me.
That's why, please don't say good things about his proposal in front of me again.
If this isn't good, then what about Asama?
Why did you reject her?
Mom, if I was in your place,
then I would have never stopped Zahroon from getting married of his choice.
The whole thing isn't about marriage of choice.
It's about class difference.
Which class of a girl does he want to marry?
Mom, even if I didn't like her, I wouldn't have stopped Zahroon.
It's his life.
He has the right to choose his own life partner.
What do you think?
I don't care about his happiness.
Mom, he is very serious about her.
Serious?
I haven't heard a word from him about that girl.
I have heard, mom.
He often talks about her.
What does he say about her?
Leave him.
Fine.
I'll leave him.
But then tell me,
if he had always liked this girl,
then why did he have to get engaged to Asmara?
Mom, you're forgetting.
We forced him to get engaged.
He didn't even want to get engaged at that time.
Whatever, Sara.
I'm not at all in favor of this proposal.
It's fine if a person isn't status conscious,
but at least you see a family while getting married.
It doesn't happen that you leave the defense and go straight to Nazimabad.
You live in Nazimabad?
Why don't you ask your brother?
Ask the one who is brainwashing you.
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One of the most difficult things in life
is to get rid of a misunderstanding about yourself from someone's heart.
Especially that misunderstanding
for which most of the reasons are right.
Even without talking to Kashif,
I had an idea of what his reaction would be on that proposal.
But after talking to him,
I have added something else to my embarrassment.
I don't know why he is so negative about me.
Just because of the incidents at the university.
Or maybe he doesn't like me the way I am.
The humiliation I have got from Kashif in life,
I have never got from anyone.
The amount of tolerance I have shown for him,
I have never shown for anyone else.
Why?
What does he want to prove on me?
I can understand everything else,
but I am unable to understand this one thing.
And at least,
Sir Abraar should have realized
that I really dislike him.
So how can I marry him?
My ideal can't be someone like Zarun.
But what is my ideal?
I don't know.
What difference does it make if you live in Nazmabad?
It doesn't make any difference to me.
But it will make a difference to you.
It will be your in-laws.
Frankly speaking Sara,
these are very small things.
And I don't want to live in that house.
What if I have to live there?
Then I will live there.
Don't people live there?
It's not like that Zarun.
The society we live in…
Sara please,
start with the dialogues of a mother.
I know very well
what makes a person respected and what doesn't.
And at least it doesn't make a person
that you have to marry a decent person
without checking his status and background.
Very impressive.
I have never heard you talk like this before.
Have you become a socialist?
Are you joking?
No, no.
I am asking a genuine question.
Go and ask Maaz.
I want to marry such a girl.
I will answer her right now.
She will say that it is better not to ruin your marriage.
Zarun, I have tried a lot to make her understand.
Now if she herself is rejecting the proposal,
then how can I, you or anyone else force her?
Uncle, when am I forcing her?
I am only asking for a solid reason for her rejection.
You know the reasons very well.
Uncle, I agree that I have made a lot of mistakes in the past.
But if I want, I cannot change my past.
No one can change it.
If it were to me,
I would never repeat that mistake expressly.
But all this is not in my hands.
Uncle, please make her understand something.
Let me meet her once.
Look, I have tried a lot.
And as far as your meeting is concerned,
I don't think she will be ready to meet you.
Uncle, she listens to you.
Please make her understand.
Why won't I make her understand?
I have made her understand many times.
But I find all this very difficult.
Uncle, please.
Why don't you listen to me?
What happened?
You seem very serious to me.
You know, this isn't funny.
It looks so funny on you.
Laugh, open your heart and laugh.
I agree that I cannot say anything in my star position.
I have got a chance.
I cannot say anything.
Relax.
I will try my best to stop your star position.
Okay, I will try.
You swear.
Promise.